Is it rude to ask my brides maids to wear my chosen under arm deodorant, lotion, body - spray, & perfume?

If you are buying it for them in a gift basket....If you have asked if they mind/not a problem (no allergies, etc.) ...it's a little out of the ordinary but not a huge deal if the they are okay with it.Is it rude to ask my brides maids to wear my chosen under arm deodorant, lotion, body - spray, %26amp; perfume?
Speaking as someone with highly sensitive skin I would have a problem with that.





There are only certain products that I can use for lotion and under arm deodarant as all rest cause seriously ugly and uncomfortable side effects. The same goes with perfume. I have to try on perfume first in case it causes an allergic reaction. Do you really want to take the risk and end up with a bridesmaid who has lovely red rashes?





And I'd advise against giving it in a gift basket. There's no guarantee that your bridesmaids will like it so the chances are that it'll end being a waste of your money that could have been put to better use elsewhere. By all means have it as part of your emergency kit in case a bridesmaid forgets her own but don't force it on them.





Besides, perfume doesn't show up on photo's and you'll probably forget that detail after two or three years.





Good luck.Is it rude to ask my brides maids to wear my chosen under arm deodorant, lotion, body - spray, %26amp; perfume?
I agree with everyone on here that said DO NOT DO THAT!





HOWEVER: if you are absolutely positively set on doing this and no one can talk you out of it, then I agree with the poster who said give it them in a gift basket.


Then sometime later, when you're all together, say casually to the ladies, something to the effect of, ';did you guys like the giftbasket?'; ';oh, you should totally wear that stuff to the wedding, (then you would all be matching)';


You should say the last part as if it just dawned on you as a wonderful idea and if you say the part in parentheses, say it with a touch of humor.


Then you can ask: ';Is that being way over the top?'; in short of a joking way.





That way, you're broaching the idea, they already have the stuff, and you're bringing it up in a light playful way so that they can choose whether to take it seriously or not and so feel like they have some choice in the matter.


And chances are, if you introduce the idea that way and they go home and smell everything and its nice, they'll probably decide of their own accord to wear it to the wedding because you've planted the idea but its their choice.





Good luck. And remember, its your day, but that doesn't mean you have license to control people. Be a big girl and have a wonderful marriage :-)
Absolutely it's rude! That's micro managing to the extreme. Why should you care what kind of lotion or deodorant they use? They're already shelling out money for the dress, alterations, shoes, jewelry, hair and makeup, throwing the bridal shower, getting a shower gift, taking you out for your bachelorette party, purchasing a wedding gift, and now you want them to all have the same scent? If it really means that much to you, buy the stuff yourself and give it to them in a gift basket (but leave the deodorant out; they have their own).
that's going too far over the top. what if your BMs are allergic to the deoderant or lotion and perfume you want?





and you might not like it if your chosen perfume doesn't smell nice on your bridesmaids. You may have someone who has a body chemistry that doesn't take to your chosen scent.





My grandmother insisted on me wearing a perfume she just adored (%26amp; it was an expensive perfume, too). It smelled nice in the bottle but not on me. the first time I put it on she screamed ';OMG what is that horrible smell';. ';Well, grandmother dear, it's that very expensive perfume you gave me that you insisted I wear.'; ';It doesn't smell like that on me.'; ';well, grandmother dear, I'm not you.'; She took it back and happily used it. and thank god she never bought me perfume again. chanel No5 is seriously overrated.
YES IT IS





What do you want them to look like you smell like you and act like you? What's the difference what they smell like?





Do you want you future husband to want to take you and the bridesmaids back to the hotel on your wedding night.





I think it's weird and they should smell however they want, as long as they wear deodorant and don't stink you'll be fine!





LOL what a funny question!
It's highly controlling and presumptuous of you.





These are all personal preferences. If you really think about it, things that are scented do not smell the same on everyone or even smell good on everyone. In addition, people can sometimes have reactions to certain things.





Instead of trying to micro-manage, you should put a little more faith and trust in them. It's personal products for God's sake!
Not rude, but it goes way too far. You have no right to ask those things.





Remember that fragrances smell differently on people depending on body chemistry. I've tried on a cologne that I loved on someone else and, honest truth, the scent on me made me sick to my stomach and made me throw up.
why would you want to? its a no no - they all have their own personal products to use and i am sure they will - btw for the sake of the many guests who may be allergic to scents try keeping your scent to a minimum - don't bathe in the stuff - we want to see the bride coming not smell her! lol honestly a lot of people wear way too much scent so be careful with it.


and happy happy wedding!
Yeh, I think so. It's too controlling, on too personal a matter. Let people be as they are. Don't be a tyrant over the people you are counting on to make your special day truly supercalifragilisticexpialidocious.
yes and excessive





IF you have a BM (or several) who are somewhat forgetful about personal hygiene, give them PLENTY of time to get ready and (if necessarily) get ready with them so you can keep a eye on what they put on (or rather don't put on)
That's pretty crazy. I would more than likely opt out of the bride's wedding party if asked to do this. I mean would you want to do that if you were a BM? What if someone asked you to wear their chosen deodorant etc? I don't think you would be happy.
A little caus they all have different bodies and some of them might have bad reactions to the deodorant or lotion. Also some girls need special lotions to totally moisturize their skin. But its your wedding and its your day! Good Luck!
yeah that's overboard. I mean they're looking the way you want as it is, hair makeup nails dress shoes. at their own expense no less! but asking them to wear a certain perfume is invading their personal space imho.
yes. that's rude.


there's a term for brides who try to micromanage every single detail of everything: bridezilla.





it's not flattering.
Sorry...my analytical data bank has no ...data to evaluate your Q!


So, I will respond as following: get wed and let then Be!!





Wishing all the very best and a prosperous life!!!





Ciao...John-John.-
That's beyond normal. If you asked me that, I would absolutely do it, but also think you were a nutjob and probably talk about you behind your back.
yes, it makes it seems like you do not trust your BM's to take care of their own personal hygiene. Hair and makeup is one thing, but at least let them be themselves in what they smell like.
yes





unless you are allergic to certain brand or type but just tell you brides maids to not wear that kind and why.





but what you asking sound like a bridezilla
why does it really matter? nobody's gonna go sniff your brides mades %26amp; say 'wow, you guys dont smell the same!' give them some freedom!
Of course it is!!!! Those things are all pretty personal and people always like to choose their own. What smells good on one person might not smell good on another.
I dont think its rude....I think its weird that you would consider asking it. I smell a bridezilla.
What if they have an allergy to the brands you wear?


YES you're asking too much
That's dumber than a box of rocks.
Yes. Who would even think to do that?
that is a personal option





I would not do it
See what your brides maids say. Ask them for there opinions and have them try the products out. If they like them, or most of them like them then, Yes! You should have them wear the products, especially if there your favorite because its YOUR wedding day!
Its your day! its not outrageous to ask them as long as you provide them with all these things. Be polite and nice when you ask, not demanding, and if they decline, I think you should respect that.